Sunday, November 2, 2014

If Momma Ain't Happy ...

Being a parent is the best and I am thankful that my husband and I chose to have me be a stay-at-home Mom. It was hard, but well worth it. We sacrificed many things to do it, we are not rich people. But what good is more stuff if you lose the time you have with your child? I even homeschooled for 5 years and I wish I had done more. (But hey, when the child is arguing for 3 hours about why he shouldn't do 30 minutes worth of math it's time to admit that you'll be raising a lawyer if this keeps up and try something else.) For those who are interested, he graduated from a private college, debt free, this spring.

I would not trade even the worst of the seconds spent homeschooling for all the money in the world. It was a privilege and a gift to have the raising of this precious child. There is no career that would be worth having missed it and it's about time that we stay-at-home Moms start speaking up and reminding the feminists and progressives that those who choose career over children are missing out on the very best of life.

Oh yes, they say they want what's best for "the children" as though children are an abstract concept that they really don't "get." And that's kind of sad for them. There is also some sort of assumption that stay-at-home Moms are stupid or incompetent or abused. As though no one in their right minds would choose such a thing. What a crock. You wish you were us.

And maybe that's the crux of it. Perhaps they realize that they are missing something that we have. Contentment, fulfillment, purpose. Although, I will grant you that such terms are not what comes to mind when the colicky baby is crying all night or when the toddler asks embarrassing questions in public, or when our child is desperately ill - but as I told his Troop(before the Scouts lost their integrity) the worst campouts make the best stories.

When they are grown into people we are proud of, we know the truth, that we have engaged in a years long challenge - and we have won. When our children grow into civilized, functioning adults who are contributing to a stable society, we recognize that this is the point of life. This is what provides us with the ability to affect the future. This is worth doing and more, it is worth doing well.

I am not saying that you cannot grow into a decent person raised by a single parent - I did, after all. (At least I endeavor to be a civilized and functioning adult.), but it is more difficult. And I am not saying that single parents cannot raise children who grow up to make valuable contributions to a stable and civilized society, but again, it's more difficult.

Then there is the other thing. The political thing. The progressive*cough* communist*cough*  thing. In order to truly reshape the fundamental vision of America - the vision of a self reliant, independent people who do not bow and scrape to government control because we ARE the authority behind this republic of ours, the enemies of freedom - and they are legion - MUST have control of the children. It is much more difficult to fulfill their Utopian (and false) vision if family loyalties, expectations and obligations are standing in the way. So, of course, stay-at-home Moms(and Dads) need to be eliminated. And while there would be resistance if the government simply attempted to take our children by force, getting Mom to think she is worthless if she doesn't go out and get herself a career is so much easier. Just look at how advertising works for make-up: Make her question whether or not she is beautiful and she will buy your cosmetics. Make her question her place as honored wife and mother and she will destroy the family for you.

We have been quiet for far too long. We are the natural guardians of our children and we need to remind the "useful innocents" out there that if Momma ain't happy then nobody's happy. Because as I look out at what this nation is becoming, I am not happy. And now, that traitorous usurper sitting in the office of the POTUS seems to think it is okay to portray me, and millions like me, not as a strong, independent woman who has chosen a career as a wife and mother, but as a helpless, victim of circumstance who can't handle life's best and greatest challenge - that of raising MY child.

From the article linked to below: "“Sometimes, someone, usually mom, leaves the workplace to stay home with the kids, which then leaves her earning a lower wage for the rest of her life as a result. And that’s not a choice we want Americans to make,” Obama said."

The Twitterverse answered this one for me with the succinct and accurate phrase: "WHO IS "WE""
And I would follow it up with "It's MY choice to make, so you just butt out."
And this: "“Moms and dads deserve a great place to drop their kids off every day that doesn’t cost them an arm and a leg,” Obama added."

Excuse me? Dropping my child off so that someone else is raising him and shaping his character everyday is NOT a good thing. It's something done out of necessity by those who can't afford to have one stay at home parent. (Or those who aren't up to the hardest and most rewarding challenge of this lifetime. )

What America needs is a POTUS who is working to get the economy back to the point where we can have the majority of our children raised in a two parent household where one parent can stay home with the children. It's what our children deserve and more, it's what they need from us.

"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. "
~ Prov 22:6

1 comment:

Call Me Mom said...

From Mr. T. Morris who has given up trying to get the comment section of this blog to work for him. (If anyone else is having trouble posting comments - please send them to me at with the subject line ITM Blog Comments.)

"Excellent commentary! A few minor revisions and it'll be ready for
broad circulation. :-)

I'll get back to it later when I'm less pressed for time, but I did
want to make one important suggestion for now. Your short analysis
concerning the relative difficulty of single motherhood/parenthood is,
in my opinion, an understatement of epic proportions and ought to be

Societies ought to be governed by the rule, and never the exception
(you realize this, but hear me out). Likewise commentaries concerning
this kind of subject so vital to the health of the nation ought to
stress the rule in very candid terms, while stressing as well (if
you're going to formally note the exception at all) that actual
exceptions to it form a small, relatively insignificant number of
cases that involve elements the vast majority of cases do not. The
rule being that single motherhood and its various enabling devices (so
called "career womanhood," no-fault divorce, universal suffrage,
"equal opportunities in employment," ad infinitum. See Laura Wood @
TheThinkingHousewife) is, quite possibly, THE most destructive force
in America; far more a destructive force than petty tyrants like
Obama, et al, have within their power.

In short, it isn't merely "more difficult" to raise a child right as a
single mother/parent, it is virtually impossible to do so, and for all
practical purposes IS impossible; it's highly improbable that anyone
can, or will ... in any time or place, and especially in modern(ist)
America. The vast majority of "success stories" are pure,
unadulterated lies straight from the pits of Satan's own hell, but
even the legitimate ones remain outside the ideal.

Single motherhood is the forbidden fruit of the modern age. "Lest in
the day ye eat thereof, ye shall surely die.""